“You got me worried! Why didn’t you pick up my calls? Don’t forget your appointment by 3:00 pm! Don’t you know it is cold outside? Wear a ...
“You got me worried! Why didn’t you pick up my calls? Don’t forget your appointment by 3:00 pm! Don’t you know it is cold outside? Wear a jacket. Don’t forget to call me once you arrive.” I guess all women can relate to these questions. It is the mommy scenario! The number one mistake a woman does in a relationship is acting like a mother and treating her man like a child. There is no doubt that the mommy game makes your man feel loved, but my question is: Does it work on the long term?
A mothering role won’t guarantee love and passion in your relationship, and on the long run it is threatening. Keep this in your mind, you don’t need to run a man’s life, and you don’t need to remind him about what is on his agenda. He can manage! You are neither his mom nor his personal assistant.
But I don’t blame myself or any woman to have made this mistake over and over. We are victims of social conditioning, and simply this is how we are equipped. We are trained to be mothers by nature, and there’s no doubt we grow up acquiring the mother’s caring nurturing attentive model.
“The Mommy Game” kills passion in your relationship on the long run. What you want out of the mommy game is more love, affection, and intimacy. But the sad truth is that your man will feel incompetent, judged, and criticized. He won’t feel good about himself; accordingly. He will lose his sense of competence, and he’ll be less loving towards himself. He won’t be offering you the love you want. And eventually, you will be driving him away.