One of my powerful assets is the ability to detect liars and diagnose people with split personalities within 5 seconds. Literally! Within 5 seconds. B...
One of my powerful assets is the ability to detect liars and diagnose people with split personalities within 5 seconds. Literally! Within 5 seconds. But, in life, there are always exceptions to the general rule. This time, a charismatic, charming, good looking, smart, bold, successful, and an amazing man made an exception. I was fooled.
I wasn’t fooled because I lost my power. I was fooled because I was dealing with a guy who is incredibly smart that he can even manage to fool himself.
We met right after my birthday, I felt like it was God’s gift to me. I was finally with a very supportive, caring, full of emotions man. I finally met my match! He was very attentive to details; he appreciated me, respected me, and valued me. He managed to make me happy and feel special all the time. He used to compliment me all the time! He was very thoughtful, very educated, very open minded. I was lucky. I was happy. But, believe it or not, I was fooled!
Yes! I was fooled. And it took me a long time to figure it out.
But today I am able to diagnose what type of personality he has. This man is a narcissist! The issue is not that he can’t stop staring at himself. The issue is way more complicated. He is a man with issues. He has issues! He has fears!
You know why?
Because he charmed me and ran away. And he is a man who runs relationships for his own benefit. Or maybe he got a narcissistic wound throughout his life; it might be betrayal, loss … etc. He wasn’t the man he claimed to be. He made an effort to fake some character traits to feel good about himself. He wanted some self esteem boost. He has a split personality. On the inside, he has very strong emotional needs that he wants to satisfy but he struggles to do so because on the outside, he wants to appear that he is in control of his emotions. He doesn’t want to appear weak, so he pushes people away all the time. This man, the narcissist, has always showed me that he doesn’t value relationships. He doesn’t want to make a healthy bond. And worse, he doesn’t want to make an effort to keep a woman.
This man is a PhD manipulator, he is so self centered, arrogant, and a player.
I never feel bad about this experience. There is always something new to learn. Today am familiar with a very toxic type of men. And I guess Evan Marc katz was totally right when he said: “It’s time to stop beating yourself up over such men, because, whether you know it or not, those men could not make anyone happy.”
To the man who made me write this, thank you for being an inspiration. You are a very good example to avoid in the future.