I’m happy that I finally have a better understanding about relationships. I have spent a lot of energy reading articles and self help books abou...
I’m happy that I finally have a better understanding about relationships.
I have spent a lot of energy reading articles and self help books about dating and relationships: Dating tips, relationship advice, what to do to keep a man, how to get the man you want, why isn’t he interested, why hasn’t he called, The dos and don’ts, what is a turn on and what is a turn off…etc. I guess these questions sound familiar to every woman. We all go desperately through web pages to find an answer.
My question is:
Do I have to read all the rules and guidelines about dating and know secrets about men, and worst, make a real big huge effort, and then, all of a sudden, adjust my mind, edit my personality, compromise my standards, and lower my expectations to get a man?
Big fat No.
This is who I am. This is how I get dressed. This is how I text. This is how I reply messages. This is how I communicate. Oh, and yes, I pick up calls on spot because am not a player. I don’t play games. I’m getting a man not a washing machine! I don’t need a manual to get along with him.
If you ask me about my secret sauce of happy relationships, I would tell you:
1. The best way to get along with men is to make an effort to better understand the brain function of the opposite sex. For this to be possible, you have to admit that biologically men and women are different. They process life differently. They perceive things differently. The brain wiring and the effects of hormones dictate a certain behavior; this is why men act the way they do, and this is why women act the way they do. Full stop.
2. Be yourself always. Your individuality and spontaneity are the key. Don’t hide your personality behind rules or manuals or the mainstream relationships guidelines. Life is so simple. Men are so simple.
Relationship struggles and dating frustrations come from our inability to understand the opposite sex. If we manage to go with reality and facts rather than manuals, relationships would be a lot easier to cope with.