Alright! I have a confession. I have always had troubles communicating with my ex partners. Throughout many failed relationships, I have come to under...
Alright! I have a confession.
I have always had troubles communicating with my ex partners. Throughout many failed relationships, I have come to understand that effective communication is a basic ingredient in a successful relationship. What I have learnt so far is that I need to develop the attitude that I’m not the only person in a relationship. I have to admit when am wrong, I have to listen, I have to see things from another perspective…etc.
So in today’s post I will tell you how to better communicate in relationships:
1. Never put the “blame factor” in your conversation. Know how to communicate your message. For example, don’t over use the “You” statements. They are offensive. You will be presenting yourself as the weaker party because you never want to take responsibility of your own actions.
2. Never compare your partner to someone else; things will get worse if you use this strategy.
3. Never judge or insult. This will block the line of communication between you and your partner; and the conversation won’t run smooth eventually.
4. Never underestimate the power of non verbal signals. Watch out your body language; it reflects your attitude, feelings, and emotions. Your posture, gesture, eye contact, tone, voice, and confidence say it all.
5. Keep in mind that you’re not the only right person in the room. Have a wider picture of the issue, be objective, and try to understand your partner’s point of view. It is all about perspective.
6. Don’t bring up the past. You don’t need this kind of drama into your conversation.
7. Never use the threatening factor.
8. Manage to be a good listener. Listening is an effective tool; get to know what your partner wants. So listen, listen, listen and never interrupt.
9. Be honest and talk openly.
10. Watch out your choice of words; offensive, tough, and negative words are killers.
11. Be smart enough to choose the right time and place.
12. Never hesitate to apologize. Admit it when you are wrong. Your partner will appreciate that.
13. Whatever the context of the conversation is, always make it simple. Be concise, focused, and straight to the point.
Good luck always!