I experienced my most intense emotions when I heard these three words; “My husband cheated.” We were having coffee, when all of a sudden a...
I experienced my most intense emotions when I heard these three words; “My husband cheated.”
We were having coffee, when all of a sudden a confident, beautiful, decent woman told me this. Because she looked a happy wife, I was curious to ask her about what makes a happy marriage.
I was mistaken. She wasn’t a happy wife.
“Sara, cheating strikes at the heart of the marital unit.” She stopped and I was speechless.
She left, and I hoped that that day would be the last day she drives back home to her husband. Her cheating husband.
I was wondering what made her stay with him after he cheated once, twice… etc and deliberately. And up till now I can’t manage to find the answer. And please forget about love, and please forget about the kids. There is nothing worse than a miserable mom raising her kids.
What I can tell you, what any other third party can tell you is that the story of this woman is the story of million women. Oh lalla.
I don’t know if in this post I want to address men who cheat, or the girlfriend – the woman who accepts to have an affair with a married man. But I think am more concerned about the girlfriend! When will we reach a time where women stand for each other not against each other?
So Dear girlfriend:
If he tells you “My wife is insecure”, I’d like to tell you that you are diagnosed with insecurity. Being desperate for another woman’s man is the highest level of insecurity.
If he tells you “My wife is preoccupied with the kids”, I’d like to tell you YES; his wife is preoccupied with the demands of her children simply because she has a father vacant position, she has to manage to be both a mother and a father.
If he tells you “I feel happy with you”, remember that his wife made a real big effort to make him happy, but he couldn’t appreciate her efforts.
But just in case you lost control because he charmed you and he is such a man, I’d like to tell you that nothing marks a man’s character better than being totally and fully committed.
Think of it. Once and twice.
Dear cheater, Dear liar, Dear husband:
I will keep it simple. Your character needs a makeover. And kindly notice that cheating doesn’t happen in room 502, it simply happens the moment you start to keep secrets while your wonderful wife is making an effort to keep her family.
To the confident, beautiful, decent woman who made me write this, I will tell you again, I hope the day we had coffee was the last day you drive back home to your husband. Your cheating husband.
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