When I’m at the bookstore, there is that one shelf that I can’t keep my eyes off it. It’s the self help books shelf; or to be more precise...
When I’m at the bookstore, there is that one shelf that I can’t keep my eyes off it. It’s the self help books shelf; or to be more precise the relationship’s self help books.
“This book will give you secrets about men, that book will help you better understand men, the book over there will tell you the dos and don’ts in relationships…” But no! That is not the reason I read self help books. I told you before that I have issues about manuals!
Basically, each person in this world has the potential of teaching us something new. And apparently the author who spent countless hours writing a relationship self help book has been through something and eventually came to a conclusion regarding it; it might be love, marriage, commitment… Each author has figured out the need to talk about an issue and eventually addressed the need and wrote a book.
One thing I know about myself is that I go with reality rather than self help books that always manage to appear perfect on paper. I never and will never apply them in real life because no one knows better than me what is best for me. I will never fake something to get another thing in return, some rules just don’t go along with my character and the way I see things in reality.
But in between the lines and behind the obvious there is so much to learn. Each author has his own style of writing, and each author projects his point of view differently; each one talks out of his own experiences, out of his own needs, each author has a motive to write, and each author has his own right. And that is what I’m looking for in self help books. One word: PERSPECTIVE.
No matter what the book is about, no matter who the author is, no matter if the book is a best seller or not; I’d like to see things from different perspective; from the author’s point of view. I’d like to see a wider picture of an issue.
There is one thing I will learn through a self help book! It might be on the dedication page, it might be on page 5 or page 271. You never know! What I’m going to learn is never found in the content but in the context! For sure.